How To Pick Your Friends

Friends are a crucial part of our lives because as humans, we have a need for connection and socialization. In elementary school, making friends was so easy. If you were in class together, you were automatically friends. This progressively got harder in middle school, then high school, and don't even get me started on college and the years after that. It is so tempting for you to keep all the friends you can get. To keep the same friends you had in high school once you're in college, and keep the same friends you had in college once you're an adult trying to make it in the real world. Here are some tips on how to pick your friends. 

1) Make sure they're on the same wavelength as you
It's all to easy to stay friends out of convenience rather than because you want to. You are the sum of the people that you surround yourself with, so choose to surround yourself with smart, accomplished, motivated people instead of people content with barely getting by. There's a saying that goes something like, "if you're the smartest one in the room, find another room" and that is so true. 

2) Ditch the drama
There's probably someone in your life that constantly makes you question yourself. They either drag you in to their problems, or their problems with other people always end up impacting your life. Quite frankly, they're drama. Drama never makes anyone feel good or happy, and you don't need it in your life. Slowly weed out the drama queens in your life, and you'll be so much happier. 

3) Only be friends with people that put in the effort
Friendship is a two way street, and it get so frustrating when you're the only one putting in effort. If someone isn't willing to make plans with you, call you without you initiating it, or bails on you at the last minute, they're not worth having in your life. 

4) Make sure they're real
There are so many fake friends out there. There are so many people only willing to stand by you through the good times only to bail when you need them the most. At the same time, there are also some people so closed in that they don't ever let you close enough to know the real them. You need to make sure that the friends you have are real friends. That they're willing to be there for you, and that they will allow you to be there for them in return. 

Friendships is one of those weird things. There are no rules or guidelines for picking your friends, and it's just one of those things we need to learn as we go. To hear more about my friendship tips, you can watch this video!


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